Saturday, September 29, 2012

Taking the Ride Down

Despite the many, many, many times I've taken the elevator in my building down, it wasn't until this afternoon that I ever had a conversation with another passenger that got me thinking so much.

It's been far and few between that I've ever shared an elevator ride to the main floor of my building.  Though there are many units in my building, somehow, someway I mostly catch one and am solo for the duration of the trip. It is for this reason that whenever the elevator stops I just assume I've arrived on the main floor and make my way out.  This assumption of course backfires on me when the elevator actually stops on a different floor other than the main floor.

On the rare occasions that I am on a ride that stops prior to the main floor, upon realizing I haven't arrived at my destination I step back into the elevator and let the individuals on that floor step in as well.  Then I apologize explaining that I thought I was already on the main floor of the building.  Today when I did that, the woman who got on the elevator said to me, "That's ok.  I totally understand."  After a brief pause she continued, "Actually, isn't it funny.  We ride up with all these people, but hardly ever ride down with many."  I thought about what she said for a minute and replied, "Yeah, you have a good point."  Not that much long, we arrived on the main floor and the doors opened.  I told her to go first and we parted ways.

As I made my way to my car, I couldn't stop thinking about what this random stranger said.  I started to think about her word beyond their original intent.  I got to thinking about how life is somewhat like an elevator ride.  Many people are willing to come along for the ride with you when things are heading upwards; however, when you're taking the ride down, the elevator often is less crowded.  (Or at least that has been my experience.)

In this end, this random encounter made me take pause and think about all the people in my life who have chosen to be on the elevator regardless of what direction is going.  I am truly thankful for them, and always will be.

Friday, September 28, 2012

In the Coming Month

This week, for the Thursday Blog Project, Susanna asked us all to take inventory of our goals for the coming month.

This is probably actually a good thing for me to do since the list of things I need to do is every changing and seems to have things added to it everyday.

Book Reviews: 
I have at least two book reviews that will be published this coming month which means I need to write two book reviews.

I have two races coming up in the next month.  My goals is to train more.  I haven't been training like I did last year.

I have a new blog that has been sitting domant since July.  I really need to start doing more with it!

Travel Preparation:
I need to prepare for the possibility of international travel in 2013.  I keep putting this off and I promised myself that I would tackle it this coming month.

There is some travel, closer to home, that I'm hoping to do too.

I have a bunch of knitting projects to complete.  Mostly gifts which means not a lot of things for me.

I'm sure there is more that I need to get accomplished by the end, but it's nice to have a list started.

Please take a moment to read what my fellow bloggers have on their to-do list next month...

Merryland Girl (Melissa)

Mom of Many (Susanna)

Momarock (Sara)

Monday, September 24, 2012

Cooking: A Developing Relationship

The Thursday blog topic that Melissa wanted us to write about for last week was: Cook.

Hmmm... Me and cooking.  Not a likely combination.  Cooking is not my thing.  I'm not like some of my friends who just LOVE to cook.  I admire those who love to cook and are good at putting together different ingredients together and creating interesting and delightful food combinations.  This includes a few of my friends who are chefs and teach cooking. 

Mainly I cook because I have to eat and I'm not going to feast on processed food all the time -- YUCK!  I have just a few dishes that I can make well, but I don't even do those often because the portion sizes are too large.  As a result, I end up with a lot of leftovers and subsequently get sick of eating the same thing over and over and over, again.

The thing I do LOVE to do is bake.  I never get sick of baking -- EVER!  I don't bake for myself.  I bake, a lot, for others because it makes people happy. 

Unlike cooking, I experiment a lot with baking.  I'm just more comfortable with it.  I guess that's why I need to cook more ... so I can become more comfortable with it and maybe venture into experimenting with different ingredients. 

I guess in the end, time will tell if I do so....

Now that I've talked about my experience with cooking, see what my fellow bloggers have to say on this topic:

Merryland Girl (Melissa)

Mom of Many (Susanna)

Momarock (Sara)

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Controversial Topics - Two for the Price of One

Normally, I don't bundle blog project topics, but this week I am because getting last week's post written didn't happen until now.  (My MEGA bad!)

Last week, I asked the group to talk about this article.  Now it's not in my nature to pick a topic that is controversial, but when I saw the above article about a Charter School in Louisiana that has created a policy that penalize students who are pregnant or are suspected of being pregnant and refuse to take a pregnancy test I went against the grain.

Unless you've been living under a rock lately (and even then I'm pretty sure the "under the rock people have heard about this as well), the reproductive rights of women has been a hot topic for sometime now.  Though I never talk my personal thoughts on the specifics decisions I would make for my own self in regards to these matters (as they are personal decisions), I do talk about how I believe that women should be able to make their own choices that works for them and not be told by any governing body or any individual what is right and wrong.

Personally, I don't know how this charter school is getting away with enforcing this policy.  What they are doing is illegal - plain and simple.  Also, I have to ask, what about the boy who gets a student pregnant?  Do they not remember the basics of reproduction - unless something has changed recently that I am not aware of, it takes two people for conception to take place.  Does this school think that other students won't know who they are?  I would be willing to bet that isn't the case.  Kids know more than they let on, and information  like this spreads FAST!

This week, Sarah ask us to take a look at an article on Canada's consideration of a law to ban spanking.

I don't have a lot to say on this topic.  I was spanked as a child, and I wouldn't say it scared me.  I've never been a parent so I can't say that I've used spanking as a form of discipline.

The only thing I can say about this topic is that I'm not sure how they would monitor this type of ban.  Would it be like laws here are now, where if a child says they were abused a parent gets arrested?  I've seen a child threaten to call the police and tell them their parent(s) are abusive as a way to get their way. (I'm being completely serious.)  As much as child abuse is a serious epidemic, it's scary to see a child do such a thing.

With all that in mind, I recommend you take a moment to see what my fellow bloggers have to say about the two topics above:

The charter school article:

Merryland Girl (Melissa)

Mom of Many (Susanna)

Momarock (Sara)

The spanking article:

 • Merryland Girl (Melissa)

Mom of Many (Susanna)

Momarock (Sara)

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Judgement Day

When I first discovered the Crazy Aunt Purl blog, written by Laurie Perry, I was THRILLED!  The timing couldn't have been more perfect as she provided a humorous escape from the awfulness that I was experiencing.  Though our stories and approaches to things weren't the same, I could related to Laurie's experiences and I found comfort in that simple fact.  Additionally, I admired her candor and tell-it-like-it-is approach.  This was at a time that I was just beginning to blog and the thought of doing such a thing was unthinkable. 

Though in the beginning I couldn't get enough of the Crazy Aunt Purl blog, as my life changed so did the frequency I read this blog.  I'm not sure why, but it just did.  It didn't mean I didn't continue to read the blog, it just meant that instead of instantly reading a new entries I would sometimes go days, or even weeks, without a visit and then catch-up in periodic sittings.

Recently, I happen to see this post in my RSS feed.  If you choose to not read the post, I will summarize it for you... it is basically about the downside to her "tell-it-like-it-is," no filter posts that make-up many years of blogging for her.  She goes on to talk about how her past entries have currently impacted all various areas of her life - personal, professional, etc.

Immediately I felt a connection, again.  The timing of the post was appropriate.   Though I have taken a more conservative approach to how much I share on my blog than Laurie has in the past, most of the time, I still think about judgement.  A lot.  I've also had a lot of conversations about judgement with my BFF - how it shows up in my life and how people may judgement me based upon what they read on this blog, or any others I might write on. 

When I first stared blogging about things beyond knitting being completely forthcoming was not an option for me, however as time passed I began to open up more and shared more "personal stuff" in my writing.  As this evolution took place, my conversations went from why I needed to be more open to whether or not I was being too open.  (It kind of felt like a "you're damned if you do and damned if you don't situation.)  The "catch 22" to all this is that some of my best writing are the pieces where I don't hold back and I share a lot of me with readers.

With all this in mind, how much of myself I put into what I write is not why the timing of happening upon this entry is uncanny.  Recently, I've been made aware of how quickly some people are to judge me - who I am and what I believe - so quickly and with little information.   Needless to say, this upsets me.  It makes me want to sit the offending party(ies) down and plead my case.  But I haven't done that.  (For various reasons.)  However, it still upsets me. 

One of the things I pride myself on is that I try to take the time to understand where people are coming from - even when I vastly disagree with them or would handle/react to things differently than they have done.  I try not to generalize people on who I "think" they are based a limited information I know about them or hold them to standards I don't know I could meet myself.

Yes.  I know I'm probably not making sense.  Quite honestly, what's going on doesn't make sense to me; so, I guess if anything, it makes sense that what I'm saying doesn't make sense.

(Did that make sense???)

Ultimately, it's my hope people would stop generalizing others and be given the chance to show  who they are without passing judgement so quickly - or at all for that matter.