Thursday, February 18, 2016

The First Kiss...

Okay, if you know me well, you're probably shocked I titled my post, The First Kiss.  I mean, the title alone leads you to believe I'm going to talk about my first kiss.  Or, a first kiss I've experienced.  Of course since I'm such a private person, which I believe I mentioned in my last post, you'd be confused why I would write about such topics.  I mean, that totally goes against how I conduct myself.  So why the title, The First Kiss....? I titled my post that because it is the topic given to us by Sara (Momarock) for today's Thursday Blog Project.  
Since I am a private person I won't be talking about my first kiss, or a first kiss I've experience.  The circumstances surrounding any of my first kisses are confidential.  What I will say about first kisses is this: 

 " I'll get you here, to the high-stakes medal round where eight out of 10 women believe that the first kiss will tell them everything they need to know about the relationship." ~ Hitch

I LOVE the movie Hitch, and I love this quote.  I've heard they took the information from a women's magazine such as Cosmopolitan.  I wouldn't be surprised if this is the case.

So now I've (technically) talked about "the first kiss." here are some firsts of mine:

  • First Car:  Light Blue Chevy Cavalier.  I use to be able to tell people the year, but it's been so long since I've had that car I can't remember.
  • First Day of College:  Was interest....  I was freaked out.  I had just moved to Texas and knew only my family.  It was a lot to have just moved to a new state and then start at a new school.  My youngest cousin tried to calm my nerves by sharing with me that she thought she was pregnant just a month and a half after giving birth. I'm not sure it calmed my nerves, but it did give me something else to think about.  And yes, she was pregnant.  
  • First Crush:  The first crush I can remember  happened in fifth grade.  I did have a boyfriend in Senior Kindergarten, but I'm not sure I ever had a crush on the guy.
  • First Time I Drove on the Expressway by Myself:  The first time I ever drove on the expressway by myself  was not too long after I got my drivers license.  I remember I got on at one entrance and got off at the next exit.  It was a very short trip.  I remember thinking how awesome it was that I was on the expressway by myself.  
  • First Trip Overseas: Spring Break 1997 with my then boyfriend.  We went to England and Ireland.  It was a fun trip!
  • First Day at Work:  In my opinion, the first day at work is always odd.  My last first day of work (which was officially a year ago this past week) was no exception.  The thing that strikes me the most about it is that there is no way I could have ever predicted how happy I would be at this job... but that's another post for another time, maybe.
  • First Time I Realized I was an Adrenaline Junkie: This was basically the first time I went skydiving.  
  • First Place I Ever Lived:  When I was born, my family lived in a condo that had a view of Lake Michigan.  It's too bad I couldn't appreciate the view. 
I'm sure there are more "firsts" I could list, but I think that is a good list.  Now that I've shared my take on this topic, please take a moment to see what my fellow bloggers had to say:

Momarock (Sara)

Merryland Girl (Melissa)

Darwin Shrugged (Denise)

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Stuck In The Body Of An Extrovert

Back in winter of 2013 I went to a workshop on the topic of friendship. My main motivation for going to this workshop was to meet individuals who lived in the city as I was preparing to move to there. As part of the workshop the presenter talked about how being an introvert or an extrovert impacts your friendships and how to approach each personality type.  Since that time I think a lot about my introvert/extrovert tendencies and the tendencies of those I surround myself. Apparently I am not the only one who thinks about this topics as Denise asked us to write about whether we are an introvert or extrovert for today's Thursday Blog Project topic.

So which am I? Since I know myself very well, I would tell you overall I'm an introvert. At some point in my life, however, I began to force myself to be an extrovert.  

Now, the fact that I've learned to be an extrovert doesn't mean my introvert tendencies don't surface. It's quite the opposite situation. There are many times I have to force myself out the door to go do something. Especially when I'm going to something knowing I won't know anyone. Not that I'm opposed to going to something alone, but sometimes it's nice to know people at events. Most of the times I'm fine with chatting with others I don't know, and have made a few friends that way; however, in some situation I just keep to myself as if I have no interest in being social.
One of the times my introvert ways are exacerbated is when I'm in larger groups. Recently, I was talking with some friends of mine about a program for young Jewish professionals that I participated in a few years back. I explained that though I liked the program overall I was happiest when we were in our small groups of 15(or so); however, even when we combined with another group (around 15 people as well) I started to become more quiet. With that in mind, I'm sure you can imagine what happened when all the groups would get together at a bar (100+ people at one time) after meeting with our smaller groups. If you guessed that I would just hangout in one spot with my water (I'm not a big drinker) then you are correct!

Another thing about me is that I hold people at arms length until I really get to know them - for better or worse. Part of this is my tendency towards being a private person.   If I had to guess, I believe this quality adds to me being shy and keeping to myself.

I've talked a lot about my introverted ways, but as I said I've become an extrovert overtime. I like to think that I've learned to balance the two tendencies. Now that I've shared some of my thoughts on this topic, please take a moment to see what my fellow blogger have to say:

Momarock (Sara)

Merryland Girl (Melissa)

Darwin Shrugged (Denise)

Friday, February 5, 2016

Aren't You Glad?

Several years ago, a friend of mine said to me, "Aren't you glad there were no camera phones and no internet to upload pictures to when we were in college?  None of the stupid shit we did could be posted online."

Fast forward to current times.  If you do something really "out there" in public the chances that it will get recorded and uploaded to the internet are good.  Especially if it's something like this: "Miami Doctor Accused of Attacking Uber Driver Calls It 'Biggest Mistake of My Life'".

This sets the stage for this week's Blog Project topic.  I asked everyone to write about the following:  This individual is now on administrative leave until her employer can determine if there are grounds to terminate her. This brings up the question as to whether or not an individual's job should be in jeopardy because they had a meltdown (or indiscretion) in public, outside of work hours, that was recorded and posted online. Share your thoughts on this matter.

I'm not an attorney, so I can't go through the legal aspects of why an employer may have to let someone go if such an incident were recorded and uploaded to the internet.  The business side of my mind could go through the potential reasons to review such actions and I understand the need of an organization to make sure they aren't putting their employees and clients (patients in this case) in harms way.  Furthermore, I don't condone such behavior, especially when it gets abusive.

The personal side of me is very bothered that our worst moments can now be subject to judgement by those around the world who don't know us and don't know the circumstances that brought us to that moment.  I'm also bothered by the society we live in now.  A society where one's life could be ruined by one bad moment experienced in public.  A society where people are incredibly cruel online... I believe we're all familiar with cyber-bullying.

This is not the first time someone has been caught on tape behaving in a less then favorable way, nor will it be the last.  And though, as I mentioned above I get the business/legal side of things, I find it hard to believe that now just by the mere act of stepping out our front door we consent to the potential of everything we do in public being open to being recorded and distributed for the world to see.  Furthermore it costing us our professional career.

I realize I'm going off on a tangent of sorts, but in a way I'm hypersensitive to it due to some of the affiliations I have in my life.  These affiliations have left my actions when I'm out and about up for questioning - or so I feel at times.  I'm sometimes afraid I'm going to say something or express options someone doesn't like and associate it with this other party.  Is that fair?  No.  Is it a possibility? Yes.  Sadly, it appears to me the line between personal and professional can be blurred very easily these days.

Again, I respect the reasons behind an organization looking into whether or not such incidents are grounds for termination.  My bigger problem is the cold fact we now live in a world where if you fuck-up in public, even in a small way, the price could potentially be a big one.

Now that I've expressed my thoughts on this matter, please take a moment to see what my fellow bloggers have to say:

Momarock (Sara)

Merryland Girl (Melissa)

Darwin Shrugged (Denise)