For the Thursday Blog Project the week of July 17th, Denise asked us to write about: Asking for help.
Asking for help is something I'm horrible at doing. Mainly for two reason.
The first reason is that over the years I have grown to be a very independent individual. I'm so use to doing things on my own that I don't even think to ask for help with things. My first instinct is to figure out how I'm going to get it done on my own. I've been this way for a good 13 years now. It is something that makes it difficult to be in a relationship. I don't know how to rely on another person.
The other reason I don't like asking for help is due to past experience with asking for help. I'm sure I've said it before - "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want." After asking for help on several occasions and not getting it I've come to learn that it's often a good thing that I am so independent because my experience is that I don't know many people who want to help - for whatever reason.
I will say, it is a delightful surprise when someone helps me without me even asking. I've found this in one person in my life - someone fair new - and it's a nice change. It's a foreign experience, but one that reminds me that I need to continue focusing my energies on helping others, even when they don't ask for help. Honestly, this is the way I like to think about this topic - Helping others even when they don't ask for help. I think that is when it counts the most.
Now that I've give you some of my thoughts on asking for help, please take a moment to see what my fellow bloggers have to say:
Merryland Girl (Melissa)
Darwin Shrugged (Denise)