Mom of Many, Susanna, picked this week's Thursday Blog Project topic. She asked us to give our thoughts on the word "hope".
Before I start with my post, I want to share that this is the last week Susanna will be participating in the blog project. She has decided to move-on from the group. As much as I am sad to see her leave the group, I am sincerely hopeful that she finds the wonderful new experiences she seeks in whatever new interests she explores going further.
Partial movie synopsis of Hope Springs as written on Wikipedia:
Although a devoted couple, empty nesters Kay and Arnold Soames (Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones)
are in need of (in Kay's opinion) help to reignite the spark in their
marriage. For years they have slept in separate rooms, forgoing any
physical affection. One day Kay (who works as a Coldwater Creek
employee) tells Arnold (a partner in an Omaha accounting firm) she has paid for them to undergo a week of intense marriage counseling with Dr. Bernie Feld (Steve Carell) in a coastal resort town in Maine.
As the synopsis above talks about, this movie is about a couple trying to revive their marriage after years and years of behavior that would have caused most people in today's world to divorce not to long after it started. The couple travels to "Hope Springs", Maine for an intense week of couples therapy. Now, I hope this isn't too much of a spoiler for those who haven't seen the movie, but at the end of the day Kay and Arnold do end-up falling in love again and getting their marriage back to a better place.
So besides the fact that the coastal town is named "Hope Springs," you might be asking yourself what the heck this has to do with today's Thursday Blog Project topic - "Hope". Though the movie did in fact entertain me (yay!) it also reinforced a lesson about relationships - all relationships whether they be romantic, platonic or professional.
We are all human and as a result we all have flaws. To me, imperfection is not a "one off" type of thing; it is expected. In order to maintain relationships we have to decide what we can and can't live with in others. The thing is that when we make a commitment to truly be there for someone for the "long haul" (whether it be a marriage, platonic or work situation) we make a commitment to work through the changes that relationship, and the people in it, experiences because we see hope and promise for the relationship itself.
Let me explain my thoughts on this idea by talking about some of my friendships. I have two very good friends who I've known close to three decades. We met as pre-teens and have been through many life changes together. Sometimes being there through those changes was easy; other times not so much. During the times it felt like it was easier to walk away, to just give-up, we didn't (or at least not totally). We fought tooth and nail because we had hope we would both do what we had to to make it work. Just like what Kaye and Arnold ultimately decided to do in this movie.
Now, I'm not saying I'm perfect at relationships, or anything for that matter. I'm simply sharing a theme that I saw play out in this movie and I've seen play out in real life.
Recently, I texted a friend of mine, who I've only known 5 years or so, with a message of appreciate for our friendship. I explained that I wanted her to know that it meant a lot to me that we've stayed friends despite all the crappy stuff we've been through. Upon receipt of my text she texted me back, "I love you too. :)" I share this with you because I also feel messages of love and appreciation breed hope. And, in return hope breeds love. (It's all cyclical.) How can we expect others to express their appreciation for us if we don't express how much we appreciate them? This is something my BFF and I do all the time. (Maybe that's part of the reason we've stayed friends for so long.) It's also something I've been working on doing with others as well because I hopeful for the potential the relationship to be long terms is present and possible.
Now that I've talked about my thoughts on the word "hope," please take a moment to see what my fellow bloggers have to say on the topic:
Merryland Girl (Melissa)
Mom of Many (Susanna)